Is art your destined career or is it just a hobby?

This was the question of my life as a teenager. I wrote pages in my diary about the topic.

I wanted to be an actress throughout high school. At that time, my father had a textile factory and the expectation was that I would take over that business. So I’ve always heard:

“You can always do art as a hobby.”

As a character, I was an ambitious person about success, who did what she sets his mind to and did not hesitate to go high. If I was very confident, I could easily say “no, I will be a theater actor!” I could say, I could walk the roads in this way.

But the thing is, I couldn’t be sure.

In many interviews I’ve read, many business people saying “I wanted to be an artist when I was a kid,” talking about themselves with mocking affection. But then they didn’t become an artist. So theirs was just a passing whim. But me, I had a burning passion for art.

However since I could never find the answer to the question, when it was time to make a choice, I chose the very chosen path. I put on the mask of “oh what a child I was dreaming of being an artist, hey teenage years” and restrained that art-loving girl and used my choice for business life. I closed that door so tightly that when I entered the university, Iwas neither involved in the theater club nor the music club. I didn’t want to feed on crumbs of a way I once dreamed of dedicating myself to, to make my mouth water again for no reason, to do something I love so much “half”. For a long time, I did not get involved in these works of art.

Gradually, I transformed myself into a much more rational, business-oriented, far from art person. It worked because it met societal expectations. Opening the voice of rationality brought success in business life and opening it more brought more success. However, even though I managed to mute the artist in me very well, I could not turn down the voice of Gözde, the adolescent in me, who asked that giant question, this time her question was from the future to the past: “Well, should I have been an artist, or could I not be an artist anyway?” The question kept repeating in my mind every month, every year, in hopes that I would solve the problem when I got older.

The 12 years I spent in business, the psychology education I received, coaching, writing, reading and most importantly exposing myself to a lot of new experiences enabled me to accumulate the answer to this question over the years. But I still had time to connect the dots.

And guess what? The time has come today. While listening to an interview, and while the question was playing in the background of my head as always, the dots finally got connected. I immediately sat down and started writing. I was very excited while writing it because the first addressee of this article is my adolescent Gözde. Who knows how excited she will be when she hears the answer to the question she has been passionately curious about for years — 20 years — and finally found the answer inside me.

Dear teenager Gözde, I hope you will be satisfied and worth the wait. I’m not just going to give you an easy answer, I’m not going to say yes or no. Instead, I will teach you how to find the answer to this question.

Here is your big answer in 5 items: “Is your career dream a temporary fad or your destiny?”

1/ From Romance to Light: Decompose the work!

You have a dream job to do, great! If a job adorns your dreams, it is probably because of the most beautiful outputs of that job, the most staged, the most decorated, the most visible. So what you call asking starts by looking at the result. You see the state of a designed outfit in the store, the moment the play is staged in the theater, the moment the announcer on the television narrates, and you fall in love with it. However, to understand whether this is something you really want or not, you have to risk going back from this romantic ‘moment of conclusion’ and know that 75% of the lives of those who do this work are spent in the ‘moment of preparation’, not in the ‘moment of conclusion’. I will not tell you at length that the preparation process of a 30-second commercial can take up to 1 year.

So, first of all, you need to decompose the job from the romance of these dream scenes. This means seeing the meaning of this work in the big picture first. Where in the world is the work you want to do? Where in your country? What are the numerical data, for example, how many theaters there are, how many theaters there are, how does the sector look, how is the situation of private theaters, what is happening in transfer theaters… What is the meaning and purpose of your work? For example, does it make people feel good, does it heal them, does it give pleasure, does it solve their problems? Whatever this main purpose is, how much and how does it fit with your personal values?

Okay okay, I hear you say, “Well, how?” again, you want to move from abstract words to recipes as soon as possible. I recommend you to study the books, documentaries, interviews, and news about your dream industry in a disciplined way. Now you don’t know, but when you turn 18, you will do this for the advertising industry, go so far as to collect the names of everyone working in the industry in a few sheets and hang them on your wall. And that will surprise them by letting you know crazy about the many people you’ll meet in your 12 years in the industry, from the name of your child to the award-winning work he’s done. You will be amazed to see how almost all of these ‘industry veterans’ turn into close friends. Well, you know since childhood; ‘Putting it on paper is half of the realization!’

Yes, after taking that big “business” picture, the real crux of the business comes in the second item, dear teenager Gözde.

2/ Enter your environment, get to know people, experience your environment!

Choosing a job means choosing to spend the longest hours in your life with the people who do the job, in the environment where that job is done. Choosing a job means choosing a culture, a perspective, a philosophy of life, how you perceive yourself and others, and your position in this world. In this sense, I can easily say that choosing a job is as important as choosing a spouse. There is a very important cunning topic in this article: You may like to do the work itself (i.e. go on stage and play) but at the same time, what you need to do to get up every morning, go to the rehearsal, spend the day at the theaters — or at home, outside when you have no work, always spend time with the theatergoers. Will you like spending time, their conversation, their lifestyle, order, that culture? From what I know now, I can easily say that while loving the job itself is 50% of this choice, loving the culture & environment of the job must be the other 50% of this job. For example, as someone who loves to sing, you will attend a music workshop for the first time at the age of 30 and there, as you fall in love with what you do on stage, you will say something that will surprise you: “I couldn’t be a musician!” You won’t say it because your voice isn’t good, you don’t have a good ear, or you have trouble singing; On the contrary, you will still be very good at these subjects. But a disorderly environment, people’s mood, a way of life that is too spontaneous, will give you goosebumps. The disorder that inspires some artistic souls will make you itchy and cold.

3) You don’t have to believe in stereotypes and prejudices, you can create your “own version” of any profession.

Once you have finished the previous research, you will now have a lot of knowledge and feel about your dream job. However, unknowingly, the information will also create prejudices in you. For example, “artists’ marriages don’t last long”, “you can’t make money if you become an artist”. If you choose to believe these things blindly, you can choose to block yourself for no reason, I regret that. In fact, unfortunately, you will partially do this and you will prevent yourself by believing in “Theater can’t make money”, “How many people become successful theater actors?” as imposed on you. Some artists are married with children and some are also business people together with their artistic careers. Whichever path you choose, always remember that you are someone who creates your own life from scratch, not a passive “later” who has to conform to existing patterns in life.

4) The only answer to this question is your determination! If your answer is yes, you will succeed. If your answer is no, you will not succeed.

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In the light of all this information, if you think that the job is getting easier and the answer is getting closer, you are very wrong because I will give you the main stake in this 4th item. I hope you won’t be disappointed. After knowing the industry you want to enter with your brain, feeling it with your heart, and absorbing it with your 5 senses, your heart now needs to answer this question: Do you think you should be an artist? Or should it just remain a hobby for you? What is your first feeling when you hear this question without thinking too much about it? This is really important. I don’t know how you will feel when you hear this question because we have 20 years between us. But I will tell you this, once you make this decision, whatever you decide, your path will open there. Your flower will sprout there. A decision has a very magical power, when you decide, the world will accept and welcome you to the profession you have chosen at that moment. And as long as you keep your eyes on the road and work hard, you will definitely succeed.

5) So what will you achieve?

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It is very important to evaluate the success criteria here. What is success for you, young Gözde? To be a famous artist? Or do you find famous artists banal and you, as a more niche artist, want to be involved in works that only intellectuals can understand? Do you get involved in a drama and work on the sets every day until the night? Or is your success criterion to spend more time with your family? Is it to run from the prize to prize at work, to work harder than anyone else, to find solutions that no one else can find even if you wake up, to receive congratulations, to progress faster than your age?

Now that you are 35 years old, success stands in a very good place for you, dear teenager Gözde. You defined success for yourself a few years ago: For you, success means balance.

You are as passionate about being successful as you were in school BUT, you no longer work so hard for it as you did at the beginning of your career. You don’t delay sports by saying “I was busy today too”. You love to spend time with your child so much, you are with him on his special days, even if you have blood on your hands; But even though you thought a lot, you never chose to work and be a child-care mother all your time. According to you, being burdened with something upsets the balance. The plans that upset the balance are short-term. That’s why the success they bring is like a ‘reward’, instantaneous, flashing. Career is a marathon, dear teenager Gözde. It would certainly be more realistic to imagine a plan that won’t take your breath away when making a decision. Of course, there will always be days when you are very tired and work hard. But at the end of the day, if you choose a career where your heart is warm and your brain is wrapped, nothing will really tire you. Just as an industry that many of my friends shrugged off over the years still does not tire me at all and makes me very happy.

Got a problem before you go? Well, let’s ask. Hmm, good question!

Well, if you could turn to me now when you were 13, would you choose to be an artist, Gözde sister?

Ah, the young people of today, you will always get the full answer to your question, and you will not leave him alone without getting that exact answer from the other person. Yes, I would definitely choose to be an artist with my current mind and a feeling that covers me so much. Because now I have knowledge that I didn’t have then, business intelligence is not something stolen from artists. Graduating from art school doesn’t mean you’re starving if a theater doesn’t hire you. I would definitely find side paths, support jobs, temporary actions. It would be difficult, but I would find it. Secondly, with the investment I love to make in human relations, I probably wouldn’t stay too far in the industry. Also, you’re not a character who will never be one-vocational, you know? Look, even now, I am someone who can coach, write professionally, give speeches and give training, and prepare a brand strategy. Moreover, hundreds of job opportunities are always out there, waiting for us on the street for those who dare. Therefore, I knew that the question here was no longer “Will the theater starve me?”

One last problem? What happened to you, such a teenager Gözde, these are the most introverted, even shy, and even socially phobic ages we are talking about. When you see me, you opened your tongue for the first time, I look at it, I’m amazed… Okay, let’s ask…

How will you support your son Can’s career?

You’re laughing that my son Can is real, aren’t you? The plastic doll in my hand in house games since the age of 2 says, ‘One day I will have a son and his name will be Can (spelled John)!’ Imagine the current secrets or something for 2 hours, visualize it for 10 days, dear eye, think about it for 30 years, I thought about Can 🙂 What do you think would happen if I put the same effort into my dream of being an artist? Let me make you think a little 🙂

As for the problem, I am very careful both because of my interest in this subject and my education to observe Can’s tendencies and passions from an early age. This is a very enjoyable discovery process. Probably, Can is a little lucky in this respect. But rest assured, I won’t be able to give him any different advice than the advice I gave you above.

If I see an area of ​​interest, I encourage him to persevere when he starts and experience that area for at least a year in his course, in her environment. So that he can experience what it feels like to progress and succeed in that field, and to understand whether he smells people and environments thoroughly.

If he is interested in a field that I don’t know about — and he probably will because he can’t think of anything other than an excavator — I will gladly research that sector as if he wants to enter it, help him research and guide him. If he wants to make a clear choice in his business life by being an artist like mine, he directs him to the field of his passion, but I want to make sure that he gets the basics very well; that is, as someone who understands how to manage his money, the nature of commerce, how money is made, and human psychology, I dream that his feet will be on the ground, even if he chooses a frivolous career.

Of course, these are just dreams, Can is only 2.5 years old and who knows what he will teach me, I will probably experience what I do not know with him. I hope then I will write to you again, dear adolescent Gözde. Take care for now, and don’t get too hung up on your pimples. No matter what soap you use, they won’t go away, they’ll just go away with time.

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